Don't stalk

When dating or in a relationship not much is worse than a guy that is needy, clingy and a whiner. When in Cabo one of my ex's drove me nuts because he was so clingy. At one point I had to tell him to give me 5 mins alone so I could brush my teeth. Yeah, seriously. Yahoo has some guy that is a relationship "expert" and he's done an online article on stalking - I mean being needy.

Some highlights and my thoughts:
1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. This one is no biggie to me. It's polite conversation and it's not needy.

2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you. This one isn't that big of a deal either - once.

3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. Ah - maybe. I like texting much more than actual talking. As long as the text messages are a mutual thing then I think it's fine.

4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" Yeah - pathetic. Sounds desperate.

5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. To me, this would make me think that the guy wasn't listening to me.
6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. Just plain creepy.

7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Not a big deal at all, just don't do it all the time.

8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Earn it? What the hell?

9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Maybe - depends how the guy reacts.

10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun.
True but it's not a needy thing - 100% agree with Be The Man.

Driving rants

1. The carpool lane isn't the fast lane. I go about 70 in the carpool lane and that is fast enough. Go around me if you don't like it. Ride my ass in the carpool lane and I will slow way down and then you'll really get pissed. I like driving fast as much as anyone but I don't do it North of Seattle anymore for a few reasons:
A. There are a ton of State Patrol. I see at least two everyday and have been pulled over recently for going 75 in a 60 - and no I didn't get a ticket.
B. I like my money. The faster you go the more gas you burn.
2. Don't change lanes in front of someone and then slam on your breaks because you were short sided that you didn't look ahead at the traffic.
3. At a four way stop - stop first, then when it's your turn go. Don't sit there to make sure the other drivers stop. Take your turn. If you don't take your turn I will either go on your turn or honk at you.
4. If a person lets you in front of them in a lane - give them a freaking wave already. That's the equvilent of a person holding the door for you and you don't say thank you. Incidently when people don't say thank you to me - I ALWAYS say YOUR WELCOME loud enough for the person to hear me.

Feel good

Nope - I'm not religious - far from it. But it makes me feel good that the Pope is visiting my great country and that he got such a nice welcome.

Is she really going out with him???

Ugly guys - pretty girls. I don't know. According to a report on Yahoo women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.

The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.

Supportive = nice, dependable, kind, trustworthy?

The picture of Natalie Portman and her singer boyfriend prove the report to be true. Ugh.... serious beauty and the beast.

Brad Paisley - I'm still a guy

Love, love, love Brad Paisley. His song She's Everything never fails to make me cry a little and love Whiskey Lullaby. Here are the words to a new one I just heard today... couldn't have said it better myself. Think I may use it on match.com for requirements.

I'm still a guy:

When you see a deer, you see Bambi And I see antlers up on the wall

When you see a lake you think picnics And I see a large mouth bass up under that log

You're probably thinkin' that you're gonna change me

In some ways, well, maybe you might Scrub me down, dress me up

Oh, but no matter what, remember, I'm still a guy

When you see a priceless french painting I see a drunk naked girl

When you think that riding a wild bull sounds crazy And I'd like to give it a whirl
Well, love makes a man do some things he ain't proud of And in a weak moment I might Walk your sissie dog, hold your purse at the mall

But remember, I'm still a guy
And I'll pour out my heart, hold your hand in the car

Write a love song that makes you cry Then turn right around, knock some jerk to the ground 'Cause he copped a feel as you walked by
I can hear you now talkin' to your friends Sayin' yeah, girls he's come a long way From draggin' his knuckles and carryin' a club And buildin' a fire in a cave

But when you say a back rub means only a back rub Then you swat my hand when I try Well, now what can I say at the end of the day Honey, I'm still a guy And I'll pour out my heart, hold your hand in the car

These days there's dudes gettin' facials Manicured, waxed and botoxed

With deep spray-on tans and creamy lotiony hands

You can't grip a tackle box

Yeah, with all of these men linin' up to get neutered

It's headin' out to be feminized

But I don't hide by my head, I've still got a pair

Yeah honey, I'm still a guy

Oh, my eyebrows ain't plucked, there's a gun in my truck

Oh thank God, I'm still a guy Yeah boy

Amen Brad... wish there were more like you around.

All about the funny

If you can make a girl laugh - you can make her do anything. Marilyn Monroe

Laughing is a good thing in a relationship - laughing with them of course, not at them. Mix that with cute, tall, and Conservative and you have a keeper.
In an article in today's Seattle Times:
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/living/2004318382_funnyguy01.html
this is said about having The Funny:
A compatible sense of humor can move people past more superficial expectations for a partner, said Janet Siroto, a spokeswoman for dating Web site Match.com. Women are more willing to overlook deal breakers like age if the guy proves witty enough.
I totally agree for some items but I have a few dealbreakers that I won't change no matter how funny a guy is: can't be shorter than me or liberal or smoke or have a crazy family. One guy I dated a while back was exactly my height, not that cute but was really funny. Funny can make up for a lot of shortcomings.